Not many of you do know Ee but she was the very first Hmong girl I have dated and she educated me on life as a Hmong resident living in Madison.
Younger than me, Yes! but she was very laid back and never asked for a thing even when I wanted to offer. But there are those within her family that made some false criticism about me and disapproval because of greed.
She was different in her own unique way. Just like others but we all have our demons too. She didn't keep it away from me for too long. We work through it and my hand was full helping her with her troubles. To me, that is the perfect gift. Caring is what we all need but those that have other opinions will question or challenge it. That's fair but it's the way how you go about it. After Yuuki and I split, it was one year later where I ran into Ee and talk at first then got to understand a bit more about the hardships but how can we overcome them.
For 2 years we were a nice team and always cooking for my roommates when we come from classes. She didn't have to do things around the house then she will go home. To have her understand that we really wanted to tell her our thanks, I decide one day to take her on a shopping spree and she had $1000 dollars to spend but she didn't want to take that either. So we went out and we both we shopping and that's when she wanted to get a few things. The point of that story is, she never wanted things or else, I get something for myself too. That's fair game to me and homerun when it comes to dating someone that understands the value of not needing things that you don't need. This doesn't count for camera gear, LOL
But one day we come back from visiting people in Kobe and Osaka and there was a letter.
Her sister forces her to leave because she was wrong about what she said and asked too many times for money when she is also married and has a husband. I felt uncomfortable and said no. Now, I'm a drug dealer, "oh wow" I said. The friction between us wasn't all good and Ee never told her about my income or where it comes from. Her sister thought I was teaching her to lie about something I was falsely accused of. When she finally figure out things, she never apologizes for all of it but instead bullies her sister into leaving Madison. I understand their family and the values they have as a Hmong family, But I was only looking out for Ee best interest but just someone financially supports her and taking care of legal matters.
She was an amazing person and will be missed but someday I know I will run into her and she tells me that she didn't want to but her sister told her.
I've told Ee if you want to become stronger for yourself, you must know how to while you living in the states. To make something of yours come true and that can be a hobby you want to make into a profession. She knew but the family was told a lie and I'd feel for Ee.
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